Help: Making decisions now
Thinking about child arrangements during the lockdown Courtesy of Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service).This article is separated into two sections. The first section gives a summary of the Court’s Guidance and the second section gives you 7 steps to help you decide how to make the best arrangements with your ex – or other carer – during the pandemic. Section 2 also includes a table, which you can fill out to help your thinking. It provides you with practical tools to make decisions that will help your family get on the same page about the Coronavirus restrictions. Section 1: The Court’s Guidance   Cafcass has received queries from parents seeking advice about how best to make child arrangements when there are also Covid-19 infection concerns about the child, parent or other family members. The President of the Family Division (who is the leading Family Judge for England and Wales) has issued guidance, which you can read here. We've also written a short glossary of terms, which helps explain some of the legal language used in the Court Guidance. The guidance sets out that: It is the parents who have parental responsibility, not the court That the Government rules on staying at home and away from others are very significant and that we are facing a public health crisis on a scale that has not happened in recent memory That the guidance does allow for children to move between their parent’s homes, but this is a ‘can move’ not a ‘must move’ Decisions about this are for the parents to make, with the following guidance: Parents should assess the child’s health, the risk of infection and the presence of any recognised vulnerable individuals in either household Parents should communicate to work out a good practical solution Parents can agree a variation to an order, and it would be good to have a written note of the agreement, that is shared Where parents cannot agree, they should be reasonable and sensible in forming their individual opinion looking at all the factors There are alternative arrangements for contact vis the internet which should be considered Parents should think about the spirit of the court order – what the order intended to achieve in the longer term, rather than the letter of the order At Cafcass – where our Social Workers have been helping parents with child arrangements dilemmas for many years – we recognise that the current circumstances are particularly difficult for parents and children, both have new and some serious concerns about day to day life and the future. Living arrangements and relationships may have changed and may be under strain in all sorts of ways. We know also that it is harder to get help at the moment.That is why we have put as much help as we can, online, and this is available in one starting place.This includes online guides for making a Parenting Plan for yourselves , and other sources of help. It also includes advice about where to seek help if you think that Domestic Abuse or Coercion are issues for you . The guidance below is not intended for parents where there are issues of abuse and control.One of the ways in which you can get help at the moment is through Mediation Services – many are offering online meetings for both parents, and they are already getting experience in helping people make and adapt arrangements for the new situation. You can read more about this on the CPH. The costs of Mediation are supported by Legal Aid, and you may qualify for this financial help. We have had queries about the following types of situations: Where one parent is a key worker, and the house cannot therefore be isolated Where one household is not isolated because other children are moving between their parents Where one parent is a health worker and the risk of the virus coming into the home is therefore greater Where a partner has been or is being abusive and putting on unreasonable pressure Where one parent is concerned about their health for good reason even where this does not meet the Governments list of serious conditions Where the virus is used as an unreasonable excuse for stopping contact – the stopping of contact does not have any additional reasons behind it. Cafcass cannot decide about individual cases, and we know that access to a Judge in court is very limited at the moment.  Section 2: Steps that may help you make decisions about Coronavirus arrangements with your ex/other carer: Rather than comment on particular scenarios, we are offering the following suggestions for how to get to a ‘reasonable and sensible’ decision as set out by the President of the Family Division. We know that ‘reasonable and sensible’ can be quite hard to agree for separating families. In our view it means taking into account all the things that might affect the child, either in favour of or against a particular arrangement, and in this case thinking also about the safety of others. It also means thinking about some of the alternatives that could be put in place, and recognising that these need only be temporary arrangements, that can be reviewed in the future.The President of the Family Division is keen also that you think about the spirit of the court order – not the letter. For us, this means thinking about what the order is trying to achieve long term, not the precise balance of the arrangements week by week. Seven steps to reaching a workable arrangement during the pandemic: Step 1: Consider your own emotional needs, your worries about the future, and whether you need to do some thinking about how to stay calm so that you can focus on the child’s needs. You may want to set this as a goal, which can show you related content. Step 2: Think about how you communicate with your former partner and that you have a way to listen to each other’s concerns if you can, and that you will be ready to share your reasoning about what needs to happen. If there is abuse or coercion (feeling forced or obliged to do things) you should seek help elsewhere. Step 3: Think about your child’s needs. What is the spirit of the child arrangements order trying to achieve? Listen to your child’s views and concerns – there is help about how to do this here . Your child might have concerns both about missing out on time with a parent, and about increasing health risks for members of the family – it could be a serious burden for a child if they thought they had been part of bringing an illness into a house.Step 4: Think about who is placed at risk of contracting the virus from the child moving between houses, and how serious this might be for them. How much does the child moving between homes increase that risk – are there already lots of other risks which you don’t have control over, and the child moving does not add much to these? Have you got concerns about a child not being properly shielded? What are the risks if the child arrangement does not take place as ordered?Step 5: What might be available to reduce the risks? Is there an indirect contact method which could keep the spirit of the order alive while not increasing the risks. Many people are using secure online video meetings to keep in touch with vulnerable friends, relatives, and grandchildren. Might this work for the time being in your situation? Might having contact more often make up for having less contact overall? Might online sessions be a way to help share the burden of – and participate in – schoolwork? Might online sessions that include Grandparents be a way of enriching the experience for all? Does a reduced frequency of contact reduce the risks? Can arrangements be agreed which improve the shielding of your child?Step 6: Both parents should communicate about their issue and concerns and take care to listen to the other parent and the child’s views. A temporary agreement could be written down. You could agree to seek help from a Mediator if you need some help to explore the issues further.Step 7: Don’t forget that you can review and change your views about any step, and it can be helpful to go over each step more than once. Don’t forget also that this arrangement is only for now and can change and improve over time. Don’t forget also that if you listen to your child and make an arrangement which respects their wishes and meets their needs, you will get a lot of credit from your child – they know it is difficult. The table below might be a good tool to work through with the other parent or carer, so you both have a record of what has been agreed to refer back to: Stage Things to think about Notes and agreement Me What helps me to stay calm and focus on our child?   Communication What communication do we have and what do we need to make a new arrangement?   Our Child’s needs What is the spirit of our Child Arrangement Order? What are our child’s views and needs?   The risks Who is at risk, in what ways?   Our options for managing the risks What are our options? What can we test out? What might be the best way forward?   Our Agreement What might our best available agreement look like? When should we review it? Do we need some help to make the agreement stronger?  
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Advice: remote working tips
Remote Working Tips There are several advantages to remote working, including an improved work life balance, saving time from not commuting and saving money. However, there are also a few challenges including finding it harder to switch off properly at the end of the day, facing more distractions and potentially communicating less frequently with colleagues. Hopefully these tips will help to improve your remote working experience: Create a Routine Whilst it can be very tempting to open your eyes, get your laptop or phone and start working from the comfort of your bed, in the long run this can ruin your relationship with sleep and stop your bedroom from feeling like a relaxing environment. Treat your day like any other workday. Take a shower, get dressed and have breakfast – this helps you get in the right frame of mind to work. Once you’re ready, create a list of everything you need to do for the day, divide your day into equal blocks of time. Plot your jobs onto your day. Place the jobs that need the most focus at the times of the day you know you work best. Schedule in when you will take short breaks and a longer break for lunch. If you have a table or desk, try to work from there and save the sofa for relaxing. When you’re in one space it is important that you feel rested rather than associating your whole living environment with work. Think about how you can spend the time you would typically use to commute. If you regularly wake up feeling tired, catch up on some extra sleep, but equally don’t just sleep in because you can. This is also a great time to get working or exercising for example. Maintain Regular Communication During periods of isolation and remote working, maintaining regular communication with colleagues can be the difference between remote working being filled with unknowns and it being a huge success. To do this: Clarify expectations. Perhaps have a conversation with your manager about how much communication they want from you and what details they’d like you to share. Embrace technology. Instant messaging is good, but some messages are best delivered face to face, so consider using video calls. Schedule in time during your workday for a call with colleagues for an update and a chat or hold regular virtual team meetings. Consider optional Q&A sessions for your team to dial in and chat through any concerns or queries they have about working remotely. If you typically schedule time in the workday for an activity or exercising with your colleagues, continue to make time for this over Skype or phone. For example: Turning your morning or afternoon coffee break into a virtual coffee break; Sharing photo updates of your lunchtime exercise session; Video calling for an afternoon creative session; Organising a daily online quiz session. Use instant messenger to communicate with your colleagues if you are feeling lonely, out of the loop or need to talk to someone. If you’re going online more than usual or seeking peer support on the internet, it’s important to look after your online wellbeing. Take a look at these pages about online mental health for more information. Create an end of day routine It can be hard to switch off properly at the end of the day when your workspace is also your home, so an end of day routine can help. Review everything you have achieved throughout your day. Create a ‘have done’ list of achievements and completed tasks as well as a ‘to do’ list for the following day. Put a plan in place for how you’ll get any outstanding jobs finished. Make sure they are in tomorrow’s to do list if needed. Check your calendar to make sure you don’t get surprised by any upcoming events. End your day by turning off your laptop and your work phone. Leave these in a separate room so you’re not tempted to check your emails outside of working hours. Consider how you can spend the time you would typically spend commuting home, again this is a great time for extra movement, calling friends and family or preparing dinner.  Remove distractions Working from home can mean distractions are more difficult to resist. It can be helpful to: Have a designated workspace within your home. This is an area of your house you set apart for productivity and work. If you’re working within a small space, you could try setting up temporary ‘zones’ by hanging blankets or screens to visually separate your work area from your bed or living area. Keep your workspace free of clutter. This will help you to focus. Set expectations with the people you live with. Let them know when you can and cannot be distracted. Schedule in regular breaks. This will help you to maintain focus. The Pomodoro technique can help with this. Consider downloading a distraction blocker if you often find yourself browsing unrelated websites. If music helps you focus, play it in the background. Whereas if quiet helps you focus, find somewhere to work that’s low on noise. Consider blocking in some offline time to help remove distractions when you need to focus.  Consider your physical health Consider using the time you would typically use to commute to exercise: exercising before work can help you feel like you have mentally ‘arrived’ at work. Doing the same when you’ve finished can help you to leave your work mindset behind and switch off. Remember to schedule in a lunch break and consider using this time to get outdoors or do some form of exercise. To avoid physical strain, do a self-check using this guidance from the NHS. If you don’t have a chair with back support, you could add a firm pillow. If you notice that you’ve been sitting down for an hour, just getting up or changing position can help. Drink water regularly, this is important for your physical and mental health. It might be helpful to set an alarm to remind you to drink. The NHS website has more information on water, drinks and your health here.
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Advice: reducing stress about coronavirus
Dealing with the stress of Coronavirus Since the outbreak was first reported, there has been - understandably - some panic about Coronavirus. Health epidemics such as these can potentially cause an increased feeling of anxiety, especially for people who already struggle with anxiety disorders. The constant coverage in the media and other outlets can lead to increased fear.Here are some suggestions that could help you during this time: Talk to someone you trust Talking to someone you trust about what's making you anxious could be a relief. It may be that just having someone listen to you and show you that they care can help. Try to manage your worries It can be hard to stop worrying when you have anxiety. If you fear that you have, or might get Coronavirus, set aside some time to challenge your thoughts and reassure yourself. As yourself: Do I have evidence? Am I at risk? Am I feeling ill? Have I been in contact with anyone who has tested positive? Have some perspective: Though we should not underestimate the effects of the virus, following government guidelines around social distancing is helping to reduce the number of cases in the UK. Look after your physical health: Try to get enough sleep as it can give you the energy to cope with difficult feelings and experiences. Think about your diet and try to eat regularly to keep your blood sugar stable, as this can make a difference to your mood and energy levels. Try to do some physical activity as exercise can be very beneficial to your mental wellbeing. Practice self care: Try breathing exercises. Breathing exercises can help you cope and feel more in control. Mindfulness can help with some anxiety disorders. Perhaps spend some time outdoors. Speak to a friend who makes you laugh. Take some time out of your day to relax. Focus on what you can control: Public Health England suggests that the best way to protect against illness, whether the common cold, flu or coronavirus is to practice good hygiene. Regularly wash your hands with warm water and soap, particularly after using public transport or before eating. If you can't wash your hands, it may be helpful to carry hand sanitiser with you. If you sneeze or cough, do so into a tissue and then immediately bin the tissue afterwards. Remember: "catch it, bin it, kill it" For more information on coronavirus, please visit NHS.uk.For more tips on how to self-care for anxiety, please visit MIND.
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Glossary: for legal terms in court guidance
Glossary for Court Guidance for the pandemic During the current pandemic, some parents whose children are the subject of Child Arrangements Orders, made by the Family Court, have been understandably worried about whether they can follow the order safely, whilst also respecting social distancing. This article is intended to explain some legal terms used in the Court’s guidance, but, as each child and family are different, it may not cover your specific questions. To read our summary of the guidance, please click here. To view the full guidance, please click here. What do some of the terms in the Court Guidance mean?:   Parental responsibility        This is the legal responsibility that all mothers and most fathers have, to look after their child in all ways.  Parent’s share this responsibility.   temporarily varied The changes to an arrangement are meant to last for as long as the Government restrictions on movement and work are in force.  Changes can be reviewed by parents at agreed dates or as the restrictions change  reasonably and sensibly All parents should pay attention to the things which keep a child well, from a child’s need for to spend time with both parents, to the safety issues for the child and for others which apply at the time.  This may mean considering the availability of alternative arrangements which make up for any changes to the usual arrangements.  A parent’s view should be based on a balance of those things. It would be helpful for these things to be written down and shared between the parents.  if the letter of a court order is varied, the spirit of the order should nevertheless be delivered  The letter means exactly what is written down in the court order, the spirit means what it is trying to help to happen  acting in agreement  Parents working together to make and put in to action a new or changed child arrangement  extended family  These are relatives – grandparents for example – and may include members of new families and households – children of new partners for example  exception to the mandatory   a good reason to do something different to a requirement which normally must happen  Rules on Staying at Home and Away from Others  These are updated on gov.uk Child Arrangements Order [‘CAO’]  This is the order, made by a family court, which sets out where your child will live and who they spend time with.   
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Advice: working at home with kids
Practical tips for working at home with your children Amend your work life balance accordingly: Start earlier before the children are up Work around nap times If your children don’t nap, create a “quiet time” after lunch for two hours where they can read, draw or watch a movie, for example. Make this a new routine. Break for lunch. Exercise with your children in the day. Set aside time after dinner to do reflection or reading emails.  Plan for the day ahead: Get clothes out the night before. Get dressed for the day. Try to get up at the normal time for the start of school. Make up a packed lunch. Have break times. Use alarms to highlight the changeover of tasks or time of day. Set a daily timetable that the child can own and make decisions about when they need to do things – use a whiteboard or large piece of paper so they can mark their progress off and get a sense of achievement. Use pictures and colour-coding to mix days with what they like and don’t like, what will help them to concentrate. Tips on remaining productive and calm while working from home with children: Separate your “workspace” from the rest of your personal space – try to work from a different room so the rest of the household know when you are working. This will also help you “leave” work at the end of the day. If this is not possible, clear your workspace at the end of the day. Be extra vigilant when making sure that children cannot hear discussions about your work, particularly if it is sensitive, confidential or potentially distressing. This is particularly relevant if you are carrying out meetings via skype or teleconference. Set yourself fewer goals everyday as you won’t be able to achieve as much as you would if the children were not there with you. Do this by being clear on the urgent and important work tasks. Use the Eisenhower box to see what are the priorities to work on. Don’t be too hard on yourself – having a daily routine is good to support productivity, yet some days the routine won’t work. Accept this and you’ll feel more productive the next day. Enjoy the time you are not working – it can be frustrating trying to work and look after your children at the same time. Try to separate the slots – work when you work (and make sure everyone knows you are working) and enjoy family time when you don’t work. Be fully present in each and it will reduce the stress.
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Resources: for children with special needs
Supporting children with special needs during the Covid-19 lockdown   We have put together a short list of resources that may be helpful in keeping your child(ren) engaged and happy, whilst during the lockdown. These resources are helpful for children with additional needs, for example, autism, visual impairment, learning disabilities, or hearing impairment. BBC CBeebies for special needs: Resources and help for children with additional needs from the BBC, including Mr. Tumble! ITV Signed Stories: Signed Stories help improve the literacy of deaf children from infancy upwards. The website also provides useful advice and guidance for parents, carers and teachers of deaf children, and for the deaf parents of hearing children. Makaton with Mencap: Mencap has produced a Makaton video about handwashing. Singing Hands UK: Singing Hands is an organisation designed to improve communication with Makaton signing. The YouTube channel has everything from nursery rhymes, stories and games through to pop songs. Singing Hands holds live sessions on YouTube at 10.30am. Storyline Online: Storyline is an award-winning children’s literacy website that streams videos featuring celebrated actors reading children’s books alongside creatively produced illustrations. National Autistic Society: The National Autistic Society is UK’s largest provider of specialist autism services. They have published guidance on coronavirus and our handy top tips for dealing with its impact.
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Advice: for older siblings trying to study
Top tips for older brothers and sisters at home Courtesy of Newstead Wood School, Orpington, Kent (part of the United Learning group of schools) Some children and young people will find themselves in the demanding position of being a part-time teacher to a younger brother or sister. Here’s some advice on how to make it work: It’s very normal and understandable for younger brothers and sisters (and you!) to want to be active and run around – especially with these new routines we are all developing. So, even though it feels like it, they are doing this to cope, not exclusively to cause stress! Working at home, especially with parents/brother/sisters can be really difficult and it is helpful to try to develop a flexible new routine e.g. while it’s not reasonable to expect your brother or sister never to bounce around at all, could there be agreed times – indicated by the door being closed, or a sign on the door – when you are working and need the room to be quiet? The sign is good because it will be a visual reminder of what you are doing. Having this routine will also help you. You don’t need to be working all of the time, so having this routine means you also have proper time to relax. It would be really helpful to sit down with your brother or sister and have a quick chat together. If they understand why your work is important to you, and what you have to do, this will help them to understand why you are asking them not to bounce around. For example: “I really like English and I’ve worked hard on reading ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’, and it’s important to me to do well because I want to get into a good university.”  “Now I need to write a paragraph on the book, which will probably take me about an hour” It is impossible to replace any behaviour (like bouncing around) with nothing. What works better is giving choices, for example, “Remember, we don’t run around – but would you like to draw a picture or watch Frozen?” It sounds simple but giving younger siblings a choice is a really helpful strategy, which works with all people (adults included), as it gives us a sense of control. We’re not saying it will be easy or that they will take to it straight away, but over time it is helpful. If they have lots of excess energy, then maybe some of the choices could be active and realistic in the home space, for example, star jumps on the spot, or a Joe Wicks PE video. It can also be helpful to ‘name their need’ - that means recognising why they are jumping around, for example, “I can see that you’re bouncing around It’s very important for you to remember that, whilst you are keen to help and support, you are not responsible for your brother or sister doing their schoolwork. This is a strange time for everyone and parents/carers up and down the nation are getting used to becoming teachers. It’s not easy to follow school routines and expectations at home – so, try not to worry, you don’t have to be a teacher too!
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Ideas: for keeping kids busy in lockdown
Courtesy of Coleridge Community College, Cambridge (part of United Learning group of schools) Top Tip: Quote: Write a letter to someone who is self- isolating. Send a picture or letter to your grandparents, or residents in a care home that are unable to see their families at the moment. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” Maya Angelou Draw or paint a picture of something that makes you happy. You could participate in the rainbow movement (@rainbowtrailuk) where people are encouraged to create a rainbow and place in their window to share with their community. Rainbows are a universal symbol of hope and promise; they’re the prize for weathering the storm. Time and again rainbows assure us that there will be beauty and clarity following times of doubt. Use the time to learn a new skill such as touch typing. You can learn for free through a course like typingclub.com “The expert in anything was once a beginner.” Anon Create a quiz that your family (across the town, country, or world) can participate in together. Use a tool like ‘Skype’ to be able to connect at the same time and participate together, whilst apart. Life becomes a celebration when friends keep in touch, so let’s celebrate our life by keeping in touch with one another. We may need to be at home, but we can still travel virtually. Follow the #museumfromhome where museum professors are telling you fascinating facts about museum artefacts. Or, you can visit any of these sites to get a virtual tour of museums (like The Louvre) or famous places (like The Vatican, or Yellowstone National Park)! “Keep exploring. Keep dreaming. Keep asking why. Don’t settle for what you already know.” Barack Obama Learn a new language. You can register for free with Duolingo and they have an introduction to lots of languages, including: Italian, German, Japanese, Arabic or Greek! “To learn a language is to have one more window from which to look at the world.” Chinese proverb Have you been outside yet today? Create an A-Z photo collage using items you find outside in your garden. For each letter of the alphabet take a photo of something that begins with the letter.  “Your life is your canvas, create a divine masterpiece.” Anon Do something kind for someone at home. This is a tough time for everyone – how can you show that you love and appreciate them?   “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” Barbara De Angelis Use a plastic bag and a cup to build a parachute for a toy. How does the size and shape of the parachute affect the time it takes to fall? “There’s no time to be bored in a world as beautiful as this.” Anon Listen to a genre of music you wouldn’t usually listen to, like classical, musicals country, reggae or swing. “Life seems to go on without effort when I am filled with music.” George Eliot  
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Advice: coparenting and coronavirus
Helpful tips for co-parenting during the Coronavirus pandemic   In these uncertain times, keeping a routine will help your child to feel safe and secure. Whilst your child's school may be closed, consider sticking to normal meal and bedtimes and any other family rituals your child takes comfort in - for example movie night or reading a book together before bed. Keeping a routine: The child arrangements that you have in place – where a child lives and how they spend their time with both parents – are also very important parts of their routine. You should maintain these if possible, and the current government regulations allow this. The President of the Family Division (who is the leading Family Judge for England and Wales) has issued guidance, which you can read here. We've also written a short glossary of terms, which helps explain some of the legal language used in the Court Guidance. Think creatively about how you can support your child to stay in touch with their other parent and family members during any period of self-isolation. Skype and Facetime can be great ways to catch up and can be used to read stories, sing and play together. With older children you could also consider a watch party – where you gather online to watch a movie or video, commenting and ‘reacting’ in real time. Keeping in touch with other parents or family members: Think creatively about how you can support your child to stay in touch with their other parent and family members during any period of self-isolation. Skype and Facetime can be great ways to catch up and can be used to read stories, sing and play together. With older children you could also consider a watch party – where you gather online to watch a movie or video, commenting and ‘reacting’ in real time. Keep children out of earshot when discussing arrangements: Be extra vigilant when making sure that children cannot hear discussions about any dispute you may have with your child’s other parent. This is particularly relevant now as they are at home and there may be discussions taking place about arrangements. Exposing children to these disputes can result in them feeling confused, having divided loyalties and may harm them emotionally. Social distancing: If your household is not in self-isolation, then you and your child must still maintain sensible social distancing from members of the public. This means avoiding all social activities– and only using public transport if you really have to.
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Tips: taking care of yourself
Tips for taking care of yourself The best thing you can do for your children is to take care of yourself. By taking steps forward for yourself you will be helping your children as well. Remember out top tip: You can only take responsibility for yourself, don’t let your co-parent being at a different stage stop you from doing the things that your children need you to. Do things that are just for you – pamper yourself, visit friends, read, find time for yourself and so on. Eat properly and get enough sleep and exercise. There is plenty of help with this, if you can make some positive changes you may feel much better: https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/. Try to limit the emotional energy you give to the conflict. Express your feelings by talking to a friend or counsellor. Release the tension by exercising. Although separation is a painful process for parents and children, remember that things change with time. Ask yourself ‘If I’m physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted, how can I be available to care for my children?’ Then ask yourself what you can do to make things better seeking help if you need to. Tell yourself that it’s OK to feel angry or sad. You can express your feelings by talking to a friend or counsellor, by joining a support group or by exercising. If you feel that you are getting stuck with negative emotions or that they keep coming back and are not resolving, you might find that some support from friends or professional help from a counsellor can help. Counsellors will be able to help you name and acknowledge your feelings and to help you find strategies to move on. It is in your children’s’ interest to do this: you feeling better can only help them to feel better with their feelings of loss. You feeling better also lets you listen more clearly to what your children are saying – please see our “Listening to Children” tab for more info. Tip   Sometimes taking practical steps can really help: Cooperate about a parenting plan – in small steps – can be really constructive Talk to a mediator about ways they can help Start to think about communication skills can reduce the stress of contact – see our programme ‘Getting it Right for Children’ Think about venues for contact – if you need a neutral venue look at the network of contact centres accredited by the National Association of Child Contact Centres. Think also about other positive venues you could use.
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