Now that you've attended your SPIP course, here are some of the key-learning points that can help you refresh what you've learned!
- Try to develop a business-like relationship with your ex-partner. Although you're emotional relationship is over, you are still both parents to your child(ren). Building a business-like relationship with your ex-partner, allows you to sensibly discuss child arrangements, without conflict.
- Openly blaming your ex-partner in front of your child, will only negatively affect them!
- Listen to your children, and learn what they want, rather than expecting them to take sides.
- Children don't like seeing their parents arguing, and they don't like being made to make difficult decisions as a result.
- Reassuring your child is very important!
- If you find yourself in a high conflict situation with your ex-partner, the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation and approach them again once tensions have reduced.
- Actively listen to your partner, and take a position of curiosity, so that they feel heard and understood.
- Use 'I' statements when talking with your ex-partner, so that they can get a true picture of how you're feeling.
Click here to learn more about 'listening to your child'.