Introduction to Getting It Right for Children
  • Do you know the best ways to stay calm and to make sure you listen as well as talk?
  • Are you prepared to see things differently?
  • Can you stop a discussion turning into an argument?

When things get heated, most people struggle to keep their cool. Research shows that drawn-out disagreements between parents can make children feel stressed and unhappy, particularly when it’s obvious to them that something is going on. 

What do I need to do?


Making agreements can be hard. Sticking to them can be even harder!

Practising communication and negotiation skills can help things go more smoothly, even if you and your child’s other parent have very different opinions and emotions are running high. 

We've suggested a good place for you to start based on what you've told us already. In this section you can work on improving the way you communicate and negotiate. The skills you gain will help you work with your child's other parent to create and stick to your Parenting Plan.

Most people find it helpful to go through the skills in order, so we'd recommend starting at the beginning, and going through the three sections in order:

  • STOP
  • TALK IT OUT
  • WORK IT OUT

The first step is usually to STOP arguing. This means staying calm, making sure you listen and being prepared to see things differently.

The next step is to TALK IT OUT. Here, you will learn how to speak for yourself and the benefits of being clear and sticking to the rules

The final step is to WORK IT OUT. This is where you bring it all together by looking at the best ways to negotiate when things are difficult.