The best thing you can do for your children is to take care of yourself. By taking steps
forward for yourself you will be helping your children as well. Remember out top tip:
You can only take responsibility for yourself, don’t let your co-parent being at a different stage stop you from doing the things that your children need you to.
If you feel that you are getting stuck with negative emotions or that they keep coming back and are not resolving, you might find that some support from friends or professional help from a counsellor can help. Counsellors will be able to help you name and acknowledge your feelings and to help you find strategies to move on. It is in your children’s’ interest to do this: you feeling better can only help them to feel better with their feelings of loss. You feeling better also lets you listen more clearly to what your children are saying – please see our “Listening to Children” tab for more info.
Sometimes taking practical steps can really help: